I was sitting in an airport recently, and something struck me. There is something about knowing you’re not alone in the world. Wether you are traveling from one place to another, walking around a packed mall, or sitting at the local Starbucks, you are not alone. You are in this great big drama called Life.
Everyone of us has an important part in life, we each play a part that can only be played by us.
We are each unique and we each play a unique part.
Too often we wonder around this life thinking that we alone know what it is to feel the way we do.
That only we know what it is like to hurt.
To long for more.
Only we know how it is to live pay check to pay check.
Only we know what it is like to be in a room full of people and still feel utterly alone.
The problem is that we are not the only ones that feel that way. We are not alone in those feelings.
A few years ago I spent a lot of time suffering in silence. I had a constant feeling of loneliness. I would be in a room filled with people and, still, I sat there feeling as though no one knew me, and oh, how alone I would feel, even in a room filled with those I loved the most.
It took me the longest time to recognize that I was not really alone, but rather that the enemy of my soul would have me feel that way, because it makes me silent. It makes me hide in the corner, and never look around or ask for help.
You feel so helpless when in a state of loneliness. There is no words to explain this feeling in the very soul of you.
I remember nights where I would lay in bed and stare at the ceiling thinking, “What if I just stay here? Would anyone really know?”
The catch with loneliness is that everything idea sounds like it’s brilliant. Everything thought sounds utterly logical, and you can explain away every look and every truth.
The thing is, after a while, loneliness begins to make sense. It begins to be such a constant that everything else outside of it starts to be really confusing. Everything else begins to not be normal, and loneliness becomes your new normal.
That my friends, is when things get really scary. When dark seems like light, and pain is your joy. When the feeling of brokenness is your version of wholeness.
And that, is not truth.
That is the lie.
My friends, there is nothing more hurtful to your life than believing you are something you are not.
This life is rough, and if we are not careful, you can get caught up, chewed on, and spit out.
One of my most favorite parts in the Harry Potter movies, yes I watched them, and yes, I do love them, and yes, I own them, but moving on. Where was I?
Oh, yes! Harry.
In the Order of The Phoenix there is this significant part where Harry is feeling extremely alone. All of his friends are not believing him, his family is out of touch, his best friend is questioning his every move, and the weight of the world seems to be on his shoulders. At this particular scene we find Harry in the forest, and he is talking with a girl from his school, and he makes a point of saying that he is all alone. The girl, Luna, says to him (this is Andrea’s paraphrase) “Don’t you think that’s how he would want you to feel.” He, being Harry’s enemy. Luna goes on to say, “It is a lot easier to destroy you when you’re all alone.” Or when you feel like you are all alone.
Isn’t that the truth?
It is so much easier to destroy someone when they are all alone.
Think about it.
When you are all alone and you feel your worst, that is when the little voices seem to make the most sense.
“You are not worth anything.”
“No one loves you.”
“Just give up.”
And the list can go on and on.
The worst thing we can do for ourselves is stay in that place. Why? Because it is so much easier to be destroyed when you are all alone.
So, what do we do?
First, please note that this is not a fix all. This is what I did to pull myself out of the pit that I found myself in. Second, this is meant to just help, and guide you to a new understanding, not to be a substitute to anything. I can only speak from my own experience, and what God has showed me. Okay? Okay.
We each have to see that being alone, in and of itself is a life issue. There will always be a time where we will be alone, in the physical sense, but it does not have to be that way in the spiritual sense.
Each one of us carry with us the fullness of the presence of God. No matter where we are, if we have asked Christ into our lives, then, BOOM, He is there. He never leaves, and He is always with us. Even if we don’t want Him there, He is there. When you begin to feel alone, remember Christ is there, always ever there.
I used to think that I was the only person in the world that had to deal with this feeling of loneliness, but as soon as I brought it up to a friend, she looked at me and said, “I feel that way sometimes too.” And that, right there, opened the door of my loneliness, hearing her say those words opened the door for me to be invited into community.
Community was my saving grace. Other than Jesus, of course.
I began to surround myself not only with Jesus, but with people who would push me into more of Jesus. I surrounded myself with women who believe that Jesus is bigger than some feeling, or thought, and that I, too, am bigger than the trap of loneliness.
My community began to pray with me, I began to seek Jesus, and when the loneliness started to crowd in I would be prepared with truth. Truth, from the Word of God, that told me I was called, that I was loved, that I was never alone. I would war with myself and my mind that tried to feed me lies, but ultimately it was me determining that I would not be destroyed so easily.
It was a coming back to the reality, each and every time, that I was not alone in my feelings, and that together we are stronger. Together, we can be alone together, and by being alone together, really, we are no longer alone. There becomes an understanding that we are not alone, in any way, shape or form, because we are together.
Now please remember, somedays it takes a kick to my butt to remind myself that I am not alone, and other days I have to tell myself quite often to stop acting like a baby. Why a baby? Cause babies cry for a few reasons. They need a diaper changed, they are scared, hungry, or alone.
My nephew will wake up out of a dead sleep and look around his room, he is 3, to make sure he is not alone. He now sleeps with his dinosaur stuffed animal over his face, why? Because that way he is not alone.
There is comfort in knowing you are not alone.
There is just something about knowing you’re not alone.
Because, you are not.
You’re not alone.